Tips
for a Bountiful Holiday
Some
practical ideas and strategies . . .
•
Bring along a friend to a holiday gathering, one who can
act as a "buffer" between you and difficult relatives,
and with whom you can "debrief" after the
event.
•
Eat as you please--don't deny yourself that second piece
of pumpkin pie because you're afraid of what others may
say. This is a holiday for you too, and you're allowed to
celebrate just like anyone else!
•
Practice visualizing your supportive friends and family.
If you encounter a critical guest or relative, "walk on
by." Focus on the joy and warmth of the
holidays!
•
For family gift exchanges that feature clothing, suggest
gift certificates from stores that carry larger sizes
instead of giving out your dress size.
That
way you can still participate in the family traditions
but not have to submit personal information.
•
Lighten up. So what: if you're large, you're large! You
know it and they know it, so relax, enjoy yourself and
participate.
•
If someone is truly insulting or abusive, you might want
to:
a.
have a good cry, in private--it will relieve your
tension;
b.
talk to someone who cares about you;
c.
tell that person that you're not comfortable with how
they are speaking to you, and that you'd like to be
left alone;
d.
make yourself useful in the kitchen, playing with
kids, etc.
•
Remember, forgiveness does not necessarily mean
forgetting or absolving people for what they have done;
forgiveness is feeling peaceful yourself.
•
Feelings are energy. Let that energy move you forward in
bountiful ways.
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